I can't stand to see that big fat zero in the comments there, so I'm just gonna go ahead and comment on my own video and hope that inspires some of you to do the same.
I recorded this video after speaking at The Wealthy Thought Leader event, hosted by Andrea Lee. It was a first class experience. She so knows her audience and exactly what they needed to be inspired to their own next level.
I found myself back at home and asking myself a question she asked of attendees – what do you stand for?
This video was one of the results of that inquiry. What do I stand for?
I stand for deep self-acceptance. I accept you. And I accept me.
lawmrsTuesday, March 23, 2010 at 4:23 pm
It's a difficult thing, I think, for people to honestly admit what they want. Personally, I often get overwhelmed by my family's needs, while my own wants and needs take a backseat. I feel guilty or selfish if I say, “Hey, I need some time and space to devote to my business so that I can be successful, and I need you to take care of yourself today or make arrangements for someone else to help.”
I look forward to what else you have coming on this topic.
terrizTuesday, March 23, 2010 at 4:38 pm
Alexis — it was lovely to see you speak at the Wealthy Thought Leader event. I enjoyed your complete transparency and passion. Wish I'd had a chance to meet you personally!
The concept of self-acceptance of what I want, moment-by-moment, is a TOTAL shift for me. I am by nature a long-term thinker and I guess I've always evaluated my immediate actions, not by what I think I want in that moment, but by how it moves me (or doesn't) toward my longer-range vision. I don't think I've ever really allowed myself to feel what I want on a moment-by-moment basis. For instance I've justified self-care (as in, I need some downtime in this moment!) because I know it gives me greater capacity to do more toward my longer-term goals later. Which I now realize is such a drain, just to be spending that amount of brain energy just thinking through every moment — evaluating every step of the way based on whether it gets me to where I think I want to go! Wow!
I think this will take some practice for me…thank you so much for sharing it. And for being who you are 🙂
I totally agree with how essential it is to know WHAT you want…and not being emotionally ATTACHED to acquiring it. It is after all, the pursuit which contains any meaningful substance, not the thing itself. Can you be successful without being a deca-millionaire? Are you kidding me? But we're so prone to making our happiness subject to these random (and often inane) criteria.
I'll be happy so long as… I'll be successful when… I'll feel good about myself after I've (insert some completely random goal, most likely given to us by someone else)… Success and happiness are yours for the taking, right now…if you're not worthy NOW, how do you expect yourself to achieve something great in the future?
Agreed. A lot of us say we want stuff we don't really care about at all…we do it because we're afraid to admit that what we REALLY want is a stupid fast car. Or a self-indulgent vacation at a ridiculous resort. Instead we say we want “to get the house painted” or to “help Suzie get an A in math”. Not faulty goals mind you…as long as they're YOUR goals and not someone else's 🙂
alexisneelyTuesday, March 23, 2010 at 9:44 pm
Oh man, this is has been SO hard for me. And it definitely contributed to the break up of my marriage. I'll definitely write some more about this. Thanks for letting me know how it's affecting you.
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I can't stand to see that big fat zero in the comments there, so I'm just gonna go ahead and comment on my own video and hope that inspires some of you to do the same.
I recorded this video after speaking at The Wealthy Thought Leader event, hosted by Andrea Lee. It was a first class experience. She so knows her audience and exactly what they needed to be inspired to their own next level.
I found myself back at home and asking myself a question she asked of attendees – what do you stand for?
This video was one of the results of that inquiry. What do I stand for?
I stand for deep self-acceptance. I accept you. And I accept me.
It's a difficult thing, I think, for people to honestly admit what they want. Personally, I often get overwhelmed by my family's needs, while my own wants and needs take a backseat. I feel guilty or selfish if I say, “Hey, I need some time and space to devote to my business so that I can be successful, and I need you to take care of yourself today or make arrangements for someone else to help.”
I look forward to what else you have coming on this topic.
Alexis — it was lovely to see you speak at the Wealthy Thought Leader event. I enjoyed your complete transparency and passion. Wish I'd had a chance to meet you personally!
The concept of self-acceptance of what I want, moment-by-moment, is a TOTAL shift for me. I am by nature a long-term thinker and I guess I've always evaluated my immediate actions, not by what I think I want in that moment, but by how it moves me (or doesn't) toward my longer-range vision. I don't think I've ever really allowed myself to feel what I want on a moment-by-moment basis. For instance I've justified self-care (as in, I need some downtime in this moment!) because I know it gives me greater capacity to do more toward my longer-term goals later. Which I now realize is such a drain, just to be spending that amount of brain energy just thinking through every moment — evaluating every step of the way based on whether it gets me to where I think I want to go! Wow!
I think this will take some practice for me…thank you so much for sharing it. And for being who you are 🙂
I totally agree with how essential it is to know WHAT you want…and not being emotionally ATTACHED to acquiring it. It is after all, the pursuit which contains any meaningful substance, not the thing itself. Can you be successful without being a deca-millionaire? Are you kidding me? But we're so prone to making our happiness subject to these random (and often inane) criteria.
I'll be happy so long as…
I'll be successful when…
I'll feel good about myself after I've (insert some completely random goal, most likely given to us by someone else)…
Success and happiness are yours for the taking, right now…if you're not worthy NOW, how do you expect yourself to achieve something great in the future?
Everyone should watch this video. Absolutely everyone! You sure you weren't in my head these past few weeks?
Agreed. A lot of us say we want stuff we don't really care about at all…we do it because we're afraid to admit that what we REALLY want is a stupid fast car. Or a self-indulgent vacation at a ridiculous resort. Instead we say we want “to get the house painted” or to “help Suzie get an A in math”. Not faulty goals mind you…as long as they're YOUR goals and not someone else's 🙂
Oh man, this is has been SO hard for me. And it definitely contributed to the break up of my marriage. I'll definitely write some more about this. Thanks for letting me know how it's affecting you.