What to Do When You Get Pissed

Here’s the fact of the matter, you are going to get pissed sometimes.  I sure do.

And there’s a right way to handle it and a wrong way.

Right way – communicate with love and open-hearted statements about how you feel.

Wrong way – shut down, close up, get resentful.

Doing that puts your relationships in jeopardy.   When you close down and take your anger inside, it transmutes into blame and victimization.

Then, we have to rationalize and justify where we weren’t wrong, where we were the right one in the situation.

According to a book I’m reading, Anatomy of Peace, it is this justification process that is at the heart of all conflict.  It puts our hearts at war.  And when our hearts are at war, the world is at war.

The answer is to put your heart at peace.  And the way to do that is to communicate when you get pissed, don’t take it inside and let it transmute into resentment, blame and victimization.

Communicate.

Talk about how you feel and why you feel that way. Take full responsibility for your feelings and for communicating what you want to be different in the future about the situation.

Then thank whoever and whatever you are pissed at for the opportunity to grow, to be more, to be bigger and to attract more of everything you want into your life.

Or, you can react, get resentful, and not talk to anyone.  You choose.